Three-Year-Old Assists In The Dᴇʟɪᴠᴇʀʏ Of Baby Brother And Embraces Him With Skin-To-Skin Contact

In the United States, a mother decided to ɢɪᴠᴇ ʙɪʀᴛʜ at home with her little girl. It was after a long preparation that this event was able to take place, which was also a very nice experience for the whole little family. There are birth choices that are more original than others. In the United States, Rebecca, a mother of two made a decision to invite her 3-year-old daughter, Hunter to be present during her home birth. She wanted to create a special family moment and an unforgettable memory for her daughter and new-born son Rory.

Before Rebecca gave birth to her second baby, there was one important aspect of her birth plan that she was determined to make possible: She wanted to incorporate her toddler. The mom from Long Island decided to ɢɪᴠᴇ ʙɪʀᴛʜ in her New York home to ensure that Hunter could be there. When the time arrived, her precocious 3-year-old didn’t just witness her baby brother’s birth or shy away in fear or confusion — Hunter was actively involved throughout the ᴅᴇʟɪᴠᴇʀʏ and initial ᴘᴏsᴛᴘᴀʀᴛᴜᴍ process.

Despite Rebecca’s husband being initially skeptical about the idea of having Hunter present for the birth, Mark trusted his wife’s gut and understood the importance of this family moment. “Kids perceive things in the way adults react to it, so if birth is not made out to be scary or ᴛʀᴀᴜᴍᴀᴛɪᴄ or what not, kids are not going to think that it is. Rebecca said: “Birth is such a natural part of life and such an awesome moment, especially for a brother or sister to be there when their sibling is born; it really makes such an awesome connection for them for the rest of their lives.”

Rebecca was never concerned about how Hunter would react to the ᴅᴇʟɪᴠᴇʀʏ and instead planned her birth around the toddler. She says: “Having her at the birth was part of the reason why I really wanted a home birth. I wanted Hunter to be as involved or not involved as she wanted to be and I didn’t want to have to be away from her.”

When Rebecca started ᴘᴜsʜɪɴɢ, Mark woke up Hunter up and brought her downstairs. Although it took her a few minutes to wake up by sitting on her dad’s lap and quietly asking questions, she quickly settled into the situation. She started playing with her dolls and requested a snack before entertaining everyone with her sweet curiosity. Nicole Lahey, Rebecca’s doula and birth photographer: “She would gently stroke her mom and tell her she was doing a great job and she kept exclaiming how excited she was to meet her baby.”

As she began to get into ʟᴀʙᴏʀ, her husband went and brought 3-year-old Hunter into the room. Although the initial plan was for Rebecca to have a ᴡᴀᴛᴇʀ ʙɪʀᴛʜ, she ended up delivering her son on the couch. Nicole says: “When Rory started to crown, the ᴍɪᴅᴡɪꜰᴇ invited Hunter over to be the first to touch her baby brother. Hunter gladly reached over and put her finger on his head and said ‘it’s squishy’.” While some do not share this conception of ᴄʜɪʟᴅʙɪʀᴛʜ, Rebecca justifies her choice by saying that by involving her daughter in all aspects of the birth of her little brother, this allowed her to develop very strong ties with him.

Just after he came into the world, she was able to have skin-to-skin contact with him, further reinforcing the intensity of this moment. Then comes a question: How could such a young child react so well to an event that has caught the eye of so many adults? The present birth photographer explained that Rebecca talked a lot with Hunter about things she would see or hear during the birth, so that she wouldn’t be surprised or scared. Thanks to all that preparation, even when his mother sᴄʀᴇᴀᴍᴇᴅ, Hunter didn’t look away for a second.

To all those who would like to live such an experience with their children, Nicole adds that “the best thing to do to prepare them is to show them birth videos, to talk about all the aspects of ᴄʜɪʟᴅʙɪʀᴛʜ, and above all to present them with this from a positive angle. Birth is the most normal part of life; share it with your children and teach them from the beginning that birth is nothing to fear. Birth is strength.”

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