Parenthood is joyful and exhilarating, but it is also nerve-wracking and exhausting. Ultimately, becoming a mom or dad is one of the most life-changing experiences a person can go through.
The couple’s love story began in 2003, when they met while both working at Target. After two and a half years of dating, Adam proposed on Christmas Eve, and he and Danielle were married six months later. “Man, we were so young!” Danielle wrote on their family blog about when they said “I do.” The couple sᴛʀᴜɢɢʟᴇᴅ to have a baby for years and their prayers were answered when their daughter Blayke was born. Four years later, in an attempt to give Blayke a sibling, Danielle became ᴘʀᴇɢɴᴀɴᴛ with not one, but five babies. The five babies, born April 8, were conceived using ɪɴᴛʀᴀᴜᴛᴇʀɪɴᴇ ɪɴsᴇᴍɪɴᴀᴛɪᴏɴ after a struggle with ɪɴғᴇʀᴛɪʟɪᴛʏ. Dᴏᴄᴛᴏʀs advised the couple to ᴀʙᴏʀᴛ one or more of the ғᴇᴛᴜsᴇs, but the couple decided not to because of their religious beliefs. Busby said he’s read negative comments from people who disagree with their decision to keep all the babies, but he focuses on the positive comments. He said:” Especially now, looking at all the babies and how perfect they are . How could we have chosen?”
Even though he said things can get hectic — especially when all five babies are screaming in the middle of the night — Busby said his love for his daughters keeps him focused. Even daughter, Blayke, is eager to help, Busby said. All of this allowed the couple get into a routine. He said:” Adding Ava to the mix has been an adjustment. It’s crazy what a difference one baby makes. We each fed the four babies like we normally do and we still had one left. We ended up playing rock, paper, scissors.” In April 2015, the Busby family transformed from a family of three to a family of eight overnight. The Busby quints are the first set of all-girl quintuplets in the US, and the first globally since 1969. Now, this history-making brood is turning terrible two!
Though the two have been parents for nearly a decade, one thing has not changed: their relationship with one another comes first. Adam said:” We’ve gotten great advice from mentors. Obviously, mine and her relationship is the most important relationship in the house. And so if that’s not doing well, you know, everything in the house suffers. And we can see it whenever we get in an argument, or you just don’t feel connected. With stress and everything going on, the kids see it and the kids feel it. And it seems like the house just kind of starts spiraling out of control. So that’s just the most important relationship in the house — ours. And we focus on that and they’re happier for it.”
With a house full of young, growing girls, all with varying personalities and opinions, there’s lots of chatter in the Busby home. And for Danielle, maintaining a healthy line of communication with Adam is the most important ingredient of their strong and happy marriage. She said:” Communication is probably the biggest key, and learning to adjust what’s not working. We enjoy doing stuff together and going on dates, but it can get overshadowed really quickly.”